DAY 10 | Coaching: Emma Jefferys

Tell us about your business and how you became a professional in the industry…
It turns out there is something called post-traumatic growth. Where something tragic happens in your life and you find more inner strength than you ever thought possible, revaluate your life to create greater meaning and reorient towards more fulfilling goals. I am a textbook example. One day I was a pregnant board member of an ad agency with a successful 20 year career behind me and the next I was a mother of a beautiful little girl, Amelia, tragically stillborn.

My whole life shifted on an axis and nothing could ever be the same again. It forced me to re-evaluate everything and I had to rebuild myself from where I had fallen. It didn’t take long for me to see that where I wanted to take my skills was in helping others to become the happiest and most fulfilled version of themselves. To help people make positive changes in their lives without waiting for a tragedy to be the catalyst. And so I retrained as a coach. I’m not mad on the labels of life or business coaching. I just feel passionately that we are all amazing individuals who have one shot at this incredible thing called life and we all deserve to see that we are capable quite literally of anything. That we owe to it ourselves to tune in and understand what makes our hearts sing and then fill our lives with as much of that as possible.

Coaching is not advice or counselling. It is a fun and empowering process which creates the space for you to understand where you are and what it is you really want, then go and get it within a supportive and positive environment and a kickass action plan. And part of my role as coach is to make sure you are tooled up with the mindset, motivation and clarity you need to get there and that we move any pesky barriers out of your way. Whether I am helping someone find their lost mojo, missing purpose or new career it is hugely rewarding and I feel privileged to be trusted to help positive change happen in peoples lives.

What Wellness rituals do you swear by?
There are a few that I swear by on a daily basis. Waking up with an attitude of gratitude is one of them. I shower and list three things that I am truly grateful for that day and then tell myself that today is going to be a great day. It may sound crazy to some but creating a positive mindset from the moment you open your eyes can transform the whole day ahead. Try it! And if you have little ones you can start this early using the @yesmummum mini cards. They are brilliant daily affirmations and I use them with my daughter first thing – she loves them!

A shot of turmeric and a green smoothie (spinach, apple and either avocado or almond butter is my favourite) sets me up for the day (along with a cup of coffee). I run. Not far and not fast but it clears my head, quietens my mind and connects me with my body and the endorphins are worth the pain! I love a list. A good list makes me feel in control and free to get on with life without the fear of forgetting to do something.

Being able to switch off even when I haven’t got round to something is hugely important to me. @nyr_official balancing spray is the instant wellness fix. I swear by spraying it whenever and wherever I want to feel completely calm and clear – I think it even helps my brain catch up. And finally, my final wellness ritual is that whenever I find my thoughts running away with me and feelings I don’t like creeping away I close my eyes and remember that I have a superpower. It’s called my mind and I can ask it to change how I feel at anytime. I think that might be the greatest secret to wellness!

What are your tips for incorporating Wellness into a busy schedule?
Ooh this one is tricky as part of me wants to say tough love. Just decide to do it. They say that if something is important to you then you’ll make the time and otherwise you’ll make excuses. So decide what matters to you and then make it happen.

Scheduling in time for wellness helps, diarise it like you would any other commitment. When will you exercise? When will you have some quiet time? When will you read that book or spend time planning what you want to do next month? And if you wouldn’t cancel on your boss why would is it acceptable to cancel on yourself. We are all brilliant at dropping everything to react to the urgent – the last minute work request, the housework before guests arrive, the favour for a friend. Which means we are also good at dropping the important balls that will make us feel better like sleep, prepping great tasting food, exercise, even doing nothing time!

Also my tip is that starting to head somewhere is better than going nowhere so start small. Set those digital detox rules for one day a week not seven, eat one more portion of greens a day, put your trainers on 3 times a week regardless of speed or distance. Just take a step in the right direction and the rest will follow. There is a beautiful quote that I have in view in my office that says it all really “And every day, the world will drag you by the hand, yelling, ‘This is important! And this is important! And this is important! You need to worry about this! And this! And this! And each day, it’s up to you to yank your hand back, put it on your heart and say, ‘No. This is what’s important.” After all, what’s more important than your wellness?

You can find out more about Emma here

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